How to be a better wife...Step 1: Choose to be one

There are lots of ways to be a better person...a better mother...a better friend...a better lover...and all of these things lead to becoming a better wife.

But where to start?

I spent the morning looking at books on Amazon, trying to find the definitive guide on becoming a better wife. But, at the end of my search, I decided, every marriage is different. Every husband and wife needs their own special recipe to succeed. No book is going to fix my marriage. No counselor is going to keep us together.

Basically, it comes down to this -

So...basically, in my opinion, the first step to becoming a better wife is admitting that you have some room to improve and choosing to be one. Choosing to stay. And, in making that choice, deciding to be what he needs, not just what is easiest for me. And that takes really trying to understand what makes him happy. 

I know my husband pretty well. Not as well as I want to, but I know that I know him better than anyone else. I'm an only child, and pretty self-centered...I spend way more time worrying about how I feel about things, rather than how he feels about things. I worry more about how I want to spend my time, rather than how he'd like to spend his. Honestly, I just spend more time thinking about myself and what makes me happy. I can admit this, and I know it is a shameful weakness. However - knowing this about myself is, in itself, a first step to fixing the problem. I may be self-centered. But, I love my husband. And I want to keep him. So...

Step One...Check.