Day 7 and 8: 31 Days to Great Sex

Day 7's challenge is similar to Day 5...just an exploration of his body. He's been working nights, and I've had family over all weekend helping with our gigantic yard. So there hasn't been any opportunity for this. My guess is, he'll jump at the chance to have me reciprocate. I don't do that enough. It feels a little weird to ask for permission to touch him all over, but I'm going to suck back the embarrassment, because I know it will please him greatly to be the center of attention for once. And I might learn a thing or two. Day 7 also reminds us that many men (mine included) feel love through sex. So, even with my low libido, I have to remember that when we don't have sex, he feels less loved. less wanted, and obviously less happy. Funny too, all the complaints she brings up in the in this chapter? I've said pretty much all of them.

And today is Day 8, which entails simply "hitting the reset button" on our sex life, forgiving each other for past transgressions and moving on. And, we're pretty much trying to do that.

Interesting quote from this chapter: "Don't be goal-oriented; be direction-oriented." It's about choosing a new positive path, instead of giving in and following the easy, well-worn, well-known, and well-traveled negative paths.

I've been trying really hard for the past few months to change my mindset. With the yoga, the updated meds, the morning meditation, the breathing through stress...things ARE getting better. I've been intentionally focusing on my husband every day, and it IS working. Our sex life is improving, and we are connecting on a level we haven't in years. Of course, it helps that we're re-introducing our D/s dynamic. Not only does that make him much more comfortable, because it gives him purpose and direction, but it also just puts us in our most comfortable roles, so things seem more natural.

Cheesy maybe, but it makes it seem like the planets are realigning.