Day 5-6: a re-cap (31 Days to Great Sex)

So the other day, I sent my husband an email in the morning. I basically just invited him to "explore" my body that night. I told him he could touch any part...it was all his...and that my job was to simply take in what felt good and what didn't so I could think about why later.

Later in the day, he asked me about it...wondered what the purpose was. Since I haven't told him about the book, and didn't want to at that point, I simply said that it was an experiment to see what I liked and what I didn't.

He seemed cool with the simple answer and said he was looking forward to it.

The "experiment" was interesting. I think he took it as more than just an invitation...but almost as a challenge...in a good way. He took plenty of time and touched pretty much everything, waiting for my reaction. I'm very ticklish, so finding the places that tickle too much (he loves to concentrate on those, btw) show me that those places are exceptionally sensitive...going there might be good, but it might also backfire and kill the mood. Then there are places I don't like...that make me uncomfortable. Those are the places I need to explore. Why do they make me uncomfortable? Am I afraid of judgement? Because it doesn't hurt. Does it feel good, and does that make me feel guilty or shameful? If so...I need to let that go...all of this is his because I promised it to him and because I newly promise it to him every day.

Day 6's challenge is to consider and appreciate your husband's body...This chapter is a good reminder to look past the faults and focus on the core of the being that grabbed your attention in the first place. So, I'm starting there. The first thing I love about my husband's body is his mind. He's smart, witty, and makes me laugh. The second is his eyes, they can bore a hole right through me. Number 3 would be his arms -- tattooed and strong, I love it when they wrap around me. Four...his hands: a bit calloused from hard work, they hold mine and touch me and do important things for me and for our home and family. And last, his...well...you know...because it's the perfect size to do what it needs to do for me. Just sayin'... (blushing now).