Quotes:
"...for sex to really work well, we also have to bare ourselves emotionally. We have to be able to be vulnerable. We have to be willing to let go."
"We long to know and be known, and in that knowing be accepted. It's our deepest need."
"When you're in a lifetime committed relationship, you're more likely to experience all the great aspects of sex...."
"...sex is the physical expression of a deep drive we have to be connected to one another."
Reflection:
This is the place where my own marriage needs the most work. We've got the physical down, we're getting better at the emotional, but the spiritual is big. And not in the Christian sense...even though that is what this author is pushing. I don't think you have to believe in God or gods to feel some sort of spiritual connection. It's that sense of connectedness with everything outside of ourselves. We often feel it in nature...that sublime peace caused by connection to something larger than ourselves. Like going back to the mother.
Sometimes, I feel it with my husband. but, more often than not, it's me who's the one keeping us from it. I focus so much on feeling good, that I forget to think beyond myself. I forget his enjoyment. I forget what is connecting us. I forget the soul in preference of the body and mind.
Tonight...I'll light candles and incense, just to keep myself spiritually centered. And I'll initiate. Since he's leaving for 5 days, it seems like having sex would be a really good idea. One last major connection before he's gone.
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