"No matter where you're at today, your sex life can start fresh. But sometimes that fresh start is endangered because we keep believing things that aren't true."
"Our primary sex organ is our brain."
"What we think about sex completely determines whether or not we enjoy [it]."
My take-aways:
- We were made to feel pleasure. ("Not only were we created to feel wonderful during sex, we were also created to feel intimate. Sex is supposed to unite us...not just with our genitals, but also with our hearts...." "Unfortunately, sex often becomes something which is more pornographic than intimate.")
- We were created for intimacy.
- Sex is supposed to make you vulnerable, and a little out of control.
- Sex is something sacred between you and your spouse - a way to reconnect...like being plugged in to be charged.
- Sex helps you sleep, relieves anxiety, boosts immunity, helps with depression, and makes you feel more connected to your spouse.
"We need to get our heads in the game, because when our heads aren't there, our bodies won't follow."
Today's consideration:
Confront any lies that you believe about sex and replace them with truth.
So what ARE the lies I tell myself?
I know I hold back sometimes, sexually. I'm unwilling to try new things. I fear initiating. I don't know if maybe a few years of being rebuked by a former long-term boyfriend who just wasn't all that into sex could have made me so reticent. That abandonment. That rejection. Holy crap! That's certainly got to be part of it, right? How could I have possibly tucked that away and not thought of it until just this minute. Weird.
So, basically, a lie I've internalized is, "He won't want me, so don't bother asking." Another might be, "He'll leave me, just like _____________ did." "If I give everything...all my love and trust, I'll regret it." "I can't ever need anyone like that again."
Wow. that's big. I'm going to have to keep thinking on this...
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