Well if this chapter was written just for me! And after reading it, I'm certainly glad to have made an acupuncture appointment. Hopefully, coming to the appointment armed with the information that I need to get my qi (chee) - or energy - flowing to help revive my libido...since sexual energy is one type of qi, and nothing stops the flow of it faster than stress (of which I am a constant harbinger). The chapter notes that "stress builds up when qi is stuck and can cause a host of physical, emotional, and relationship problems."
Some other notable points:
- having sex boost qi and can invigorate its flow
- stagnant qi can cause muscle aches, irritability, distractibility, overwhelm, and lack of focus
- stress triggers a hormonal chain reaction that ultimately suppresses libido
- having stress and not moving your qi will lessen your ability to enjoy sex, which will push sex even further down on the list of priorities, causing relationship strain, guild, and even more stress
- learning to move your qi is key
- some solutions: aerobic exercise, Xiao Yao Wan (Relaxed Wander) - herbal blend, massage (yep! I made an appointment!)
- without enough qi, you might not be able to spark your own libido
For this chapter, which was a quick one, I'm really just left with the intention to meet with my acupuncturist and be as honest as possible about my intentions. Armed with the background information from the book, I can easily say, "I'm having libido issues which I think stem from my hormones being imbalanced (which I'm seeing a homeopathic doctor to address) and from having stagnant qi...I need you to help me get my qi moving again." I'll also bring up the herbal supplement to see if that's a necessary addition to my regimen. And then, of course, there's the additio of a massage - oh darn. All the self-care...what's a girl to do but wallow in bliss? And hopefully...increased desire!
I can admit that yesterday, after spending so much time considering all of this, my mind was fully present, and I was all over my husband when he got home.
I also made this move - I initiated sex earlier in the evening, before we had the chance to plant our behinds on the couch and lose interest. It worked. And having sex kept my mind on it even when we went to bed, and I still wanted it. Not at all like me, as of late, but refreshing. And of course, hubby obliged (why would he not?).
The feeling carried over to today, though I have to admit, I'm a bit tired from going to bed so late and then getting up early to drive to an out-of-town meeting.
Oh well...it was worth it.
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