Time for some new plans!

When I started this site, I really wasn't sure where I was going with it. I knew I wanted it to be about marriage, because that was a focus area of mine at the time. I decided to read a few books, because that's what I do when I need to figure things out. I tend to prefer "fixing my own problems" over letting others in and allowing them to advise or shape my behavior. I often rail against being told what to do, even though I have a pretty obvious submissive side with my husband. So, seeing a counselor, which D and are doing right now, is hard for me.

I'm not much of a talker, at least about intense emotional topics. I'd much rather stuff those nasty things deep inside and avoid confrontation. But, as we all know, the emotions stack on top of one another, and eventually, we blow up over something completely dumb, leaving the other person dumbfounded.

When it comes to my marriage, a lot of things work. D and I are best friends. We confide in each other and comfort each other and love to spend time together. But, both of us are pretty lazy when it comes to maintaining the romance and lust in our relationship. Maybe that's because we're too comfortable.

I suppose my next project really should have something to do with sex. The last two books I've worked my way through have been on the topic, since it seems to be our biggest hurdle, what with my low libido that now cycles up and down on a slower and less frequent basis that ever before.

If you've read my blog at all, you'll know that I've done a lot to try and curtail this phenomenon, and that I'm not really sure (neither are the doctors) what causes it. So, now that I've incorporated hormones, acupuncture, yoga, and counseling, I suppose the only place to go at this point is back to my books.

Next up...

And, I'm going to begin my own 30 day relationship challenge during the month of November. I'll post the daily challenge the night before and make it a focus for the following day. November seems like a good month for it, too, with Thanksgiving. Since everyone always seems to be doing those gratitude challenges and daily notices of what they are thankful for on Facebook, I think it's the perfect time. Of course, I suppose any time is the perfect time as long as you're ready and willing.

So here's to upcoming plans!