Scheduling my priorities

I love my husband. But, our marriage is far from perfect. What makes it continue to at least sort of work, though, is that we are best friends and that neither of us is giving up. It may not be enough to hold us together forever, but it's sure bought us a lot of time so far.

Currently, we're seeing a counselor. And I'm coming up with new and improved ways to stay focused on my marriage.

See, I'm one of those people who has a hard time focusing on more than one thing at a time. I don't multi-task well, though I do it all too often, out of necessary and because it's pretty much expected of me at work.

Today, I sat down and made a list of my priorities. It's far from the first time I've done that. But, since we're sort of in crisis mode right now, there was a new sense of urgency and importance in the task. After I made my list, I plugged the most important things into my schedule. I'm a checklist kind of girl. I need to see things physically on my calendar so I can wrap my brain around them and mentally prepare for them all week and all day. I also find great satisfaction in crossing things off of my list. So, using an app called Google Keep, I've created a weekly checklist of things I need to accomplish on a daily basis. I've included reminders, like texting my husband, kissing, hugging, sex, date nights, etc. Those things are right in there with laundry, appointments, and scrapbooking, and soccer practice. Why? Because I forget to do them. All those things get lost in the shuffle of every day life, and I find myself too exhausted to be nice to my child, seduce my husband, or do things I like to do (like read a book on the couch...all day...just because).

So, I'm scheduling them all in. As ridiculous as it looks on my checklist...it's there. And I'm trying. Still.

I suppose that's something, right?