Day 26-28: 31 Days to Great Sex

So, day 26-31 is all about setting up the habit of great sex. I can honestly say, however, that this book has not really changed any of my habits or mindsets. Sure, there have been some little nuggets of wisdom (nothing new to me, mind you)...little reminders of things I know I should be considering on a regular basis. But, overall, this book truly seems to be written for women who are completely naive about sex...and men.

Don't get me wrong -- I'm guilty of some of the things she brings up in this book. But I was aware of my faults before I read it.

It is easy to fall into the sexless marriage. She's right about that. And it's hard to heal one. She's also right about that. But...all the ways she brings up to fix it? I already knew them. So, I suppose her book served as a catalyst in some regards, and that's good, right. But, ultimately? This book is for a particular audience; one made of women who have low self-esteem in the bedroom and lack knowledge about sex and pleasing their spouse.

That being said...

Chapter 26 is about frequency (she suggests 2 times per week, minimum, but encourages readers to discuss what is optimal for them and their spouse).

Chapter 27 reviews the "quickie" and gives a few pointers (really? we need pointers?).

Chapter 28 discusses initiating sex...especially for the "lower libido spouse." Yep, that's me. And this chapter is pretty much spot on. She mentions that we need to feel as if our spouse wants to have sex with us and isn't just "going through the motions" or "letting us." She says, "His most basic need...is not to actually have sex. It's to feel as if he's wanted." The one line she shares in this chapter that hit home was, "How can I force myself to want it?" because...I've actually said that several times. She doesn't really answer the question. She simply says, Do It....I suppose she assumes the wanting will come naturally after that. I'm not buying it. But...I guess it's better than giving up, right?